MJ goes to preschool a few days a week and he loves it. He’s made friends, does various learning activities, participates in fun crafts, and best of all, runs wild on the nice, enclosed playground. His experiences were positive every time he went to school, until now.
I have talked to the teachers about him and they say they have not seen any hitting going on. I really do not want to start anything, but I am contemplating talking to his parents next.
Moms and Dads: Please, if your child is rotten, recognize it and work with him/her. It is not ok to bully in preschool, elementary, secondary, or later in adulthood. It has got to stop HERE.
How can you curb the kid bully in your child’s school or neighborhood? I am a firm believer that it starts at home, so be sure that all of the adults and other children involved are positive role models. Here are a few tips on how to stop the bullying now:
If your child is being bullied:
- Talk to them about it and assess the situation. Make sure that your child knows that it is not acceptable to be bullied and that they are not the ones that are wrong here.
- Tell a teacher. They can look for signs of bullying and place the appropriate punishment on the child while at school.
- Be sure your child is sticking up for himself, somehow. Say NO. Don’t give in. Most bullies thrive on the weak and those who do not stick up for themselves, making them feel more powerful.
- Have your child keep their distance from the bully, or simply ignore him. They may become bored and move along.
- Be strong, do not show you are angry or upset. When bullies see someone flustered and crying, they think they have won.
- If it gets really bad, parent intervention may be necessary.
If your child is the bully:
- Explain how hurtful it is to others. Bullying can hurt a person physically as well as their feelings.
- Give the bully the attention they are craving, but turn it into something positive. Sometimes they are looking for validation and can’t figure out how to express it any other way.
- Pump up his/her self esteem. Make him feel great about something positive he did, that way he’ll focus on feeling powerful that way rather than picking on others.
- Recognize that abuse, neglect, and other negative aspects of a child’s life can be the reason for bullying.
- Find something that is calming to your child to settle their angry spells.
- Reinforce general life principles: sharing, followng rules, being polite, waiting your turn, etc. When they realize that these are facets of every day life, they may not get so upset when they come across it.
Any other good suggestions? Leave a comment!